The Twin That Vanished

By Dr. Rossanna Massey, D.C., EFTCert-I

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To me, one of the most exciting things about being an EFT Practitioner is the frequency of extraordinary emotional excursions that take place outside of our usual one dimensional realm.  This is a story about fetal emotions that lay behind a prenatal trauma, and the effects that spilled over into the early childhood of a young boy in Texas.

While at my aunt and uncle’s lovely 50th anniversary party in El Paso, Texas, I was introduced to a very nice young couple who heard that I was doing some type of energy work. They wondered if I could possibly help their young son who was an enigma to everyone, and of great concern to both of them.
Enrique and Anita are busy young married professionals in El Paso, who like many other couples their age try hard to balance both family and careers respectively. Although we were at a party, they wanted to know more about EFT.  Since my time in Texas was limited, I invited them to a quick trial run of what it looked like, and how it felt, while enforcing the fact that this demonstration was not meant as a parlor trick, but for a possible session later in the week before I left.  They quickly agreed, and off we went to my uncle’s private office with the child in question.  Prior to our meeting I had only heard second hand that their son, Esteban, had a history of regressing drastically after having his six-months round of vaccinations.  Little did I know what was about to unfold with the rest of his story.

 Three years ago Christmas Eve, Anita fell ill, and remained so even after she was pronounced pregnant with maternal twins by her obstetrician six days later.  Sonogram results showed two separate placentas.  One fetus, a boy, was thriving, while the other, a girl, appeared much smaller in comparison, and was no longer alive.   The clinical name for this type of twin fetal presentation is called the “Vanishing Twin Syndrome”.  Already having two other young children, Andrea and Diego, and in spite of the fact that one of the fetuses didn’t survive, Anita and Enrique were nevertheless grateful for their remaining gift of life.  With that in mind, Anita reports not having been emotional about the loss of the infant whatsoever, and took it all in stride.  But physically, she spent the next four months relentlessly nauseated without reprieve, unable to tolerate even the most benign scent without an extreme hypersensitive reaction. 

Although he tried to come earlier, Esteban was delivered at 33 weeks.  He weighed in at only 4 pounds, apparently malnourished per the size of his diminished umbilical cord. 
Before long he was finally able to leave the neonatal unit and was brought home to his family.  For the next six months everyone enjoyed the peaceful, happy infant who slept throughout the night without disruption.  And then things changed drastically.

Upon the introduction of his six-months round of vaccinations, Esteban ran a fever for approximately six days duration.  When his parents questioned the Pediatrician about the prolonged fever, his reply was the fever was just “coincidental” and the he was just “fighting a virus”, and denied any wrong doing for having administered the shots.  However, according to both Anita and Enrique, things were never the same again.

After the fever finally subsided, Esteban changed into a very moody, irritable, and difficult baby, waking up three to four times a night crying inconsolably. As he grew older (1-2yrs) he threw temper tantrums so frequently, and so out of control, that his exasperated parents would stand in a cold shower with him fully clothed in an attempt to quickly shock him out of it.

It was also around this time that his parents noticed his extreme discomfort in large crowds where it was noisy, bright, and filled with movement that he couldn’t control.  Whether he was out with his family socially, or if he awoke to a visiting houseguest after napping, the slightest change in his immediate environment would be enough to make him behave hysterically.

Not only did Esteban become “over-stimulated” when he was around other children, he was also angered by their unwanted attention.  This reaction proved to be an especially daunting behavioral pattern while attending his mother in picking up the older children from school.  Anita noticed too that he displayed a great deal of anger and hostility toward his older brother, Diego, and father Enrique.  This was made clearly evident if Enrique would attempt to display affection toward him, touch, or even look at him.   In fact, the only time that Enrique got a kiss from his little son was when he was leaving to go to work, and that was only because he was visibly happy anticipating his leaving!

Esteban will be three years of age this July, but only began speaking within the last six months.  When Anita told the Pediatrician that she suspected he was autistic, he was decidedly non-committal; however; he did assigned Esteban to Early Childhood Intervention caseworkers, and wrote a prescription for Occupational Therapy to assist in dealing with his difficulty in interpersonal relationships, or, as he referred to them,  “sensory issues”.
 In essence, what seemed like another sad example of the effects of childhood vaccinations that we chiropractors have seen, documented, and rallied against time and again, the difference was the overlooked additional layer.  The “pink elephant” in the room no one was talking about was the fact that Esteban began his life in the comfort of his twin sister’s presence, felt her die, and had to accommodate to her stillness until he was delivered.  Then never saw her again.  Other than to Esteban, the emotional trauma was only apparent to me, and played down by everyone, including his parents, who were just grateful that he survived at all.    

With the four of us in the study, I briefly explained surrogate tapping and advised Anita and Enrique to imagine being Esteban, envision his interpretation of things through his eyes, and tap in his stead.  Esteban appeared restless, and wanted to leave the room.
Our session began very quickly;

“Even though I’m lost without her, I’m a good boy, and mommy, and daddy misses her too.”

Reminder phrase:  “I’m lost without her, I don’t know where she is, we all miss her….”
After one round of short-cut tapping with that setup phrase, Esteban appeared relaxed, even yawned, advanced toward his father, and proceed to drape himself over his lap.
And with that, Anita realized that in fact her daughter’s short life did count, and mattered especially to her brother, Esteban, who it seemed missed her desperately.  Perhaps some of his “acting out” was the residue of their sad beginning?

“’Even though I’m mad she’s not here, I really am a good boy, and I’ll try and have fun now.”

Reminder Phrase:  “I’m so mad she’s not here; I don’t like it without her…”

The last round of our brief session was meant to acknowledge his feelings of loss, and honor the fact she once lived.

“Even though I’m sad that you’re gone, I’m a really good boy, and I’m glad you were with me.”

Reminder Phrase:  “I’m so sad that you’re gone, I’m glad you were with me, I’ll never forget you as long as I live, sending love to my sister….”

Both parents, including Esteban, appeared relaxed and peaceful after our last round.    Esteban calmly asked to leave the room to go play.  They thanked me for my efforts and we returned to the party without really knowing what to expect--except for me-- I couldn’t stop smiling inside.  After all, how could something so “far out” as prenatal EFT work so quickly on such a complicated problem?  And yet, suddenly without much fanfare, we saw Esteban running past us laughing with the other kids, and effortlessly engaging in physical contact!  Anita came up to me and said; “Did you see that”?   I feigned surprise. We agreed not to make a big deal about it, and continued to be stunned by his actions for the rest of the evening.  His entire family including his grandparents noticed a profound change in his attitude from that night on.  

While it was usual and customary for Esteban to dictate the time to go home when he’d had enough, the whole family stayed at the party as long as everyone else did.  Plus, he was now freely volunteering kisses and hugs to anyone who wanted them--including a gigantic kiss and very tight hug for me! 

I left El Paso two days later, but the changes in his behavior continued to unfold in the weeks that ensued.   According to his delighted parents, Esteban is much more pleasant to be with in general.  Other family members and friends who were not aware of the EFT experience all mentioned that they can see a big difference in him--that he seems much calmer.  In fact, upon his last evaluation, his E.C.I. caseworker determined she wasn’t needed anymore!

Behavioral modifications per his parents went as follows:

He has not thrown a temper tantrum since the tapping, and his anger subsided “substantially”. 

It seems that he’s developed quite a sense of humor!  His sister Andrea and brother Diego get a kick out of how funny he is, and his animated antics have them laughing all the time.

The picking up the kids at school nightmare is long resolved.  He now really enjoys that time of day, and pleasantly interacts with all kids. 

For the first time ever, the whole family can stay in church for the duration of the mass without incident.  He even gladly holds hands for the Lords Prayer!

And best of all, is the change in his interaction with his father. No longer repellant of his attention or affection, Esteban now looks forward to being with Enrique, spending most of the day with him without protest if Anita steps out to run errands. 

If ever he has a moment that is even slightly reminiscent of an old “episode”, they have him tap on his karate chop point, or his crown, and he snaps right out of it!

What I hope to convey to the readers of this article is that the power and possibilities of what EFT can accomplish are, in my estimation, truly endless.  Just when I think I’ve seen it all, more extraordinary experiences arise.  When shared with other EFT practitioners these new experiences stretch the limits of our own abilities, and takes us dimensionally even farther beyond what we’ve ever imagined.  I have the utmost of gratitude for you in creating such a profoundly powerful energetic tool that all mankind will eventually benefit from. 

It’s just a matter of time.


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Author's Bio:

My primary specialty is serious diseases, though I am experienced in a wide variety of problems and issues. Trained as a Chiropractic Physician, my background in the healing arts gives me an advantage in working with physical manifestations of illness. I never hesitate to confront the emotional underpinnings of even the most serious of health problems, including pancreatic cancer.

I can be reached for private consults and phone sessions at

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Posted October 02, 2010 10:19 AM

Oh my, what an eye opener! Thank you Dr. Massey

28 years ago I gave birth to my son, Derek. 18 months later, after severe, continued bleeding, I had a D&C and the doctor said Derek had been a maternal twin that died sometime in gestation. What was left of the baby, I had carried around for a year and a half.
While I was pregnant for Derek, I was sure he was going to be a girl.

This article brings up a lot of things that our family has never dealt with!
I've had no emotion about this, save being flabbergasted that it could happen, Derek has always said he feels likes he's missing his other half. He won't do EFT but it's certainly worth a try to do surrogate work and EFT for me, too.

Thank you for a super experience....not so scary to deal with after all.....


Rossanna Massey
Posted October 07, 2010 12:16 PM

Thank you for sharing your experience Susie. I'm glad this article gave you some insight about your son Derek. This vanishing twin experience was a real eye opener for me too! As a young student, I thought conscious life began during a certain time of gestation--boy was I wrong about that! Because of all the exposure of energy work like EFT now days, the concept of prenatal emotional issues isn't so far fetched.

Because of his resistance to EFT (anger?) surrogate tapping for Derek would absolutely be appropriate. I'd be interested to know how it goes.

With Gratitude,
Dr. R


Posted August 14, 2011 05:06 AM

I was so .... relieved..... to read the stories above. I have felt a sadness and huge feeling of loss all my life and I never knew why (I'm now 60).

When I was a child I remember asking my mother if I was a twin and she said no, I just felt I should have been!

Then one day a couple of years ago whilst doing a 'Journey' to find the 'root cause' of a physical issue, I met my twin, it wasn't a boy or girl, it was 'a being' and this being told me that it helped me with my journey into life by supporting me to become established in the womb ...

It told me that its journey had now being accomplished and it was leaving. I remember begging and pleading with this being not to leave me but, very kindly, it told me that its journey with me was done and it had never intended to be born.

Over the years I have 'lost' friends, partners and have always felt alone ... even now I have no friends, I don't trust anyone enough to give them love as I feel they will leave me sad and alone again ....

I have not told anyone about this before as people already think I'm a little bit too OTT, whatever that means, to me it means passionate and determined, I want to love and be loved and I suppose that makes me a bit 'clingy' but now I think I realise why ... Thank you to everyone else who has shared their stories ... I can now tapp for a resolution to this .... :)))


Rossanna Massey
Posted August 14, 2011 01:32 PM

Hi Karen,
Thank you for feeling safe enough to openly share your feelings after reading about lost twins. The people who travel in our circles (energy psychologists) wouldn't find you odd at all!
I hope reading this article makes it easier for you to update your "Personal Peace Procedure" (per Gary Craig) to find your path more clearly with regard to your heart, the way you feel about yourself, and the way you feel about others.

With my Sincerest Regards,
Dr. Rossanna


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