What to Tap for with EFT
How to find what to tap on
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One of my biggest mistakes as a newcomer was to waste good time trying to find the exact emotion to tap on instead of just tapping on whatever is there. I was a trained hypnotherapy, Reiki, and massage practitioner, with very good client intake form skills, and I would within the first 5-10 minutes of meeting the client have all we needed already written down. But I still searched for the exact emotion, probing unnecessarily throughout the session, annoying the client, breaking the flow, and slowing progress.
This is especially so with painful events, where one would just want to clear them as swiftly and easily as possible. This is why often newcomers are too intimidated to tap for a big issue on their own, as dwelling on all those emotions is just too overwhelming. And of course, when we are looking into an issue and thinking deeply about what emotions are involved, that is pretty much dwelling on it; and unnecessarily so.
Let us take fear of public speaking. You may be pleased to find that there is no need for example, to get all worked up whether the emotion is shame or fear of rejection when all that is needed is to tap on an event. In other words, find an event where there was a fear of public speaking, see what you can call it, then just tap for the event. Let us say this is "When everyone looked at me in yesterday's meeting". So we can simply call the event "When everyone looked at me in yesterday's meeting" and not dwell on it any further but simply start tapping.
So we can use the following statements.
"Even though I have this feeling about when everyone looked at me in yesterday's meeting, I deeply love and accept myself."
"When everyone looked at me in yesterday's meeting."
All we need to do is to keep repeating this tapping till any intensity of emotion about when everyone looked at us in yesterday's meeting has been neutralized. Then we can find another such incident, then another, neutralizing them all. Once we have neutralized several events, they all seem to collapse, so you can rest assured that you do not have to spend the rest of our life collapsing them. This is called the Generalization Effect, where the tapping on some of a series of memories collapses the whole series; a bit like a cascade of dominoes.
If going straight to an event still feels like too much, then chances are that you are not ready to go to it yet. In that case, how you are feeling right now is a great tapping subject. In which case, you can simply tap on "Even though I have this negative feeling, I deeply... " or if the feeling is easy to identify, then just tap for it. For example "Even though I'm disappointed, ..." or whatever comes to you. If you can go straight to a smaller event, that would also be a great help. Examples of small events include:
- Being overtaken unfairly by another driver or missing the bus/train
- Being shortchanged at a shop
- Being late for an event for reasons beyond your control
- A shop assistant being rude to you
- Getting locked out when you forgot or lost your keys
Try tapping on something smaller if need be, and when you are ready, you can try tackling the big events again. Youtr tapping journey can bring so much peace. Enjoy this peace one step at a time; you can get there.
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© Suzanne Zacharia 2010. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is. And of course, you are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE "EFT How-to for You" and regular free EFT Tapping script samples in my newsletter at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com - New to EFT? No worries, just get your own copy of "EFT How-to for You" and start EFTing with ease very soon!
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