What Decisions Did You Make?
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"Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." Keri Russell
Gary Craig, creator of EFT, suggests in his Personal Peace Process that people make a list of all the situations and experiences that they wished would not have happen in their life and use EFT to clear, release or neutralize the emotional residue. As I have gone through my past, I remember situations I wished would not have happened, but I don't necessarily have any emotional intensity anymore. In order to explore whether that particular situation is still affecting me, I ask myself this question.
"What decision about myself or the world would I have made at the time?"
Here are some examples of situations and the decisions that might be made:
Mom slaps me - I am not good enough. I am not lovable.
Dad said I was stupid - I am not smart enough. I am stupid.
Your house was robbed - The world is not a safe place.
You were caught cheating on a test - I am a bad person. I am a cheater.
You were punished for not sharing your toys - Others are more important than I am.
The decisions you made as a child or young adult can subconsciously become your identity and keep you from achieving financial success, finding a loving relationship or experiencing health and happiness.
Go back through your history and see if you can identify the decisions you made about your self-worth or safety that may be preventing you from living the life you desire. A client I had made a "decision" that she had to do all her schoolwork by herself. Somewhere along the way, the school system stressed that getting help was cheating. Now as a business owner, she has trouble asking for help writing copy for her sales letters because she feels like it is cheating or deceitful if she doesn't do this herself even though this is not a task that she likes or is good at.
I worked with another client that was not able to find a loving relationship because she experienced an abusive relationship early on and "decided" that she was not good enough to be in a loving relationship. After working together and changing her decision from "I am not good enough" to "I am good enough", she manifested a mutually rewarding relationship that led to marriage.
What decisions have you made that are limiting your success? Dig deep and write down anything you can remember. After you have created your list, use EFT to release the decisions you made that do not support who you are now.
EFT Sequence Suggestion:
Karate Chop: Even though I made a decision that I am not smart enough (good enough, safe, important, deserving, worthy, etc.) because of this incident, I am willing to release this decision and believe that I am smart enough (good enough, safe, important, deserving, worthy, etc.)
Repeat this statement 3 times while tapping on the karate chop point.
On each of the remaining EFT meridian points, repeat the statement that represents the new decision you have made about yourself.
I am smart enough.
I am good enough.
I am safe.
I am important.
I am worthy and deserving.
You owe it to yourself to release any decisions that are no longer valid and are limiting your success. You owe it to yourself to make new decisions that empower you and lead you to success.
"Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision." Anthony Robbins
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Kathy Atkinson, Creative Life Coaching, EFTCert-I
Specializing in using the Emotional Freedom Technique to help business owners, professionals and individuals release the fears, doubts and limiting beliefs that cost them financially in their careers and emotionally in their relationships.
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Posted October 29, 2010 06:38 PM
Kathy, I have so many of these non-emotional but traumatic events. Thank you, thank you.
Posted November 02, 2010 01:46 PM
I just realised that in fact I made such a decison about money .... it's amazing how suddenly the light goes on and you feel "That's it"! Thank you very much!!
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